Over the years I have used quite a few psychological tools to help people. I have used them during retreats, individual coaching sessions, counseling sessions and while mentoring young men. I have also developed a few of these tools for specific situations. Most of these tools include some form of visualization; seeing your life from a different perspective if you will.
You can tell how much mental pain someone is in by their ability, or lack of, to visualize. Depression has a way of shutting down this ability. I know when I have faced depression in my own life my ability to visualize was extremely impaired. Somehow what is really important becomes skewed. All we feel is pain.
This morning I was reading one of the books I keep by my bedside that keeps me grounded in reality. The book is Awareness by Anthony de Mello. He uses one of these types of exercises in the back of his book, so now I am going to use it on you if you are still reading.
I want you to relax. Take a few deep breaths. If possible lie down somewhere comfortable and quiet. I want you to imagine you are laying comfortably on a silk bed with a fluffy silk pillow. Relax and breathe!
Can you visualize this place? Do you feel yourself becoming calmer?
It is pitch black dark and restful.
You know where you are?
You are in your casket. You are dead. Your body is wasting away turning back into the dust you came from. Your life is over.
What is important now?
Worrying about your job? Worrying about what kind of house you live in? What kind of car you drive? How much money you have in the bank? Worrying about what others think of you?
I have read this book so many times I have lost count, but today this section captured my soul.
What is important to me today?
Spending time writing letters to my boys, writing this blog, riding in my convertible and praising God for blessing me with a wonderful wife. Today I am grateful.
What is important to you?