I know for me a scene from the movie “The Kid” flashed before my eyes while writing this blog. All of us have had bullies in our lives, but to attain true freedom you have to confront them. Bullies are not just people either. Government, churches and businesses can be bullies as well. Most of us for some reason don’t make that connection, so we lay down and say things like, “that’s just the way it is”, or “what can I do about it.”
I am going to share an example in my own life that happened this past year. I lost my job as the COO of a software company in February of last year. I contacted my mortgage company to let them know I would need some help and time as I got back on my feet. I was directed to a division designed to help with your mortgage payments. I jumped through all kinds of hoops, and I was told by a representative to stop paying my mortgage. I decided that wasn’t smart, so I continued to pay, but I also continued to jump through the hoops they were asking me too. I didn’t want to lose my house.
Thirty days turned into sixty days, and then into ninety days. I realized they were nothing more than stall tactics, and this company had no intention of helping in my time of need. I vowed at that point I would not owe them a dollar before the end of 2015.
I paid off the credit card I had with this bank in November ($6,000.00 balance), and on the 19th of this month I will sign a contract on my house in Colorado. At that point, I will owe this bank (bully) nothing, and they will never be a part of my life, or make a dollar of interest from me again.
Now I am sure many of you reading this blog are thinking you really haven’t hurt them. You’re right, but I have protected myself. Remember this is about me, not them.
When you seek FREEDOM you have to make hard decisions with laser focus towards the prize. A house is just a house. A bully is just a bully, and the best way to deal with a bully is to cut them off from your existence.
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“The secret of happiness is freedom. The secret of freedom is courage.”- Thucydides