Expectations One of the hardest things to do when you are working towards true freedom is releasing unnecessary obligations, especially those that belong to someone else. Below is an example from my own life.
One of the rules of my house has been if you don’t go to college you have to pay for your own bills by the time you turn 21. Both of my boys know this fact. My oldest chose not to go to college and head straight into the workforce. I am proud of his reasoning, and he is one of those people who has the ability to do anything. He has a great job in Denver, and is making more money than most of his friends who have graduated from college. Don’t confuse the point.
I have been paying his car payment, insurance and cell phone bill while he got on his feet. He is paying his rent and food, but moving to Denver was his choice. A month ago we begin the process of establishing credit for him by switching his loan payment for his car into his name. He kicked and screamed a little, but I reminded him about the rule. Last week, on his own accord, he switched his cell phone bill into his name. I am proud of how responsible he is becoming. He is stepping into the process instead of running from it. He is owning his obligations.
I have been lucky with this instance, but some people will balk when you try to get rid of unhealthy obligations. You have to be willing to let them suffer the consequences. You have to remember they are stealing your freedom. You have to be strong enough to walk away if necessary.
To some of you this may sound like I am being hard on my son. For others, especially since you know my financial situation at this time, see it as a man relinquishing responsibility. But the real truth is there comes a time when you have to look at all of your obligations and see which ones are actually yours.
Remember the goal is true FREEDOM!