If you know me well or have kept up with my writing through the years, you know I hate the word accountability. My despise for accountability comes from being involved with church groups called accountability groups. I have found most of them to be as shallow as a tadpole puddle. Nothing much gets accomplished in these groups because they refuse to go deep, but that ‘s another story.
I was talking with a good friend the other day about how both of us feel the need to be in charge. In the middle of the conversation, she said, “I know I can trust me to get it done.” That line made me sit back in my seat. I knew somewhere deep in my soul I had made an agreement with this statement. I had made a decision not to trust others to come through for me.
Asking to have your needs met by others is hard; not trusting them to come through after you have asked is psychological suicide.
What does this have to do with accountability?
Glad you asked!
If you are friends with me on Facebook you know I post my weight every day. I remember the first day I posted I weighed 258.6 pounds. I was embarrassed, ashamed, and mad at myself, but I chose to trust the process. My friend Alan Thomas had challenged me to join his group to get healthy called the Extreme Accountability Challenge. I almost didn’t do it because of the name of the group.
I have lost over 30 pounds at this point, and I feel better than I have in years. However, the biggest benefit for me is I have people pulling for me, encouraging me and holding me accountable. Some of these people I don’t even know personally. I forced my self to trust these people no matter what happened.
Thank God for accountability!
I am reframing my experience of the word accountability through this group.
Trust and Accountability are kindred spirits-If you want to change find someone to be accountable too.